1) Your Body Keeps the Score When you keep your emotions bottled up, your body carries the load. Suppressed emotions keep your nervous system on high alert, creating a stress response in the body. Your muscles tighten, your breathing goes shallow and your heart rate...
How the Feelings Wheel Can Help if You Struggle to “Feel Your Feelings" So many people reach adulthood without ever being taught how to feel their feelings. We learned how to be strong, capable, responsible, and “fine.” But we were never shown how to understand the...
Stop Waiting for “The Right Time” So many of my clients say: “I’ll love myself when I lose weight.” “I’ll feel worthy when my life is more sorted.” “I’ll be kinder to myself when things calm down.” “I’ll rest when I've achieved my goal.” But the truth I want you to...
Why Fun Is a Self-Love Practice Somewhere along the way, we forget how to play. Life becomes serious. Heavy. Full of responsibility, deadlines, shoulds, and expectations. Fun becomes a luxury instead of a necessity. Joy becomes an afterthought. Our inner child becomes...
Why Mirror Work Changes Everything So many women long for self-love, but don’t know where to start. If you only chose one practice from this entire journey, mirror work would be the one I’d place gently into your hands. Mirror work for self-love isn’t about...
Love Your Body So many women tell me, “I want to love myself… but I just don’t know how.”And when we trace that longing back to its roots, we often find the same thing: a strained, complicated relationship with the body they live in. If you’ve spent years ignoring...
When Emotional Numbing Looks Like Strength A lot of women I work with describe themselves as “the strong one.” They cope. Get things done. Keep going long after their body and heart are begging for rest. And somewhere along the line, “being strong” became mixed up...
Love Your Negatives: The Hidden Step in Learning How to Love Yourself When people think about self-love, they often think it means liking every part of who they are. But real self-love runs deeper than that. It's about learning to love the parts you’ve tried to hide,...
Ask for Help When you think about how to love yourself, asking for help might not be the first thing that comes to mind. Yet it’s one of the most powerful steps on the journey. Many of us grew up being praised for our independence, for being strong, sensible and...
Praise Yourself We’ve explored the power of kindness, and now it’s time for something many of us find uncomfortable: praising ourselves. When we talk about how to love myself, praise is one of the most powerful, yet overlooked, tools we have. It’s how we begin to...
When Self-Love Meets a Critical Mind We say we want to love ourselves, yet so many of us spend our days silently attacking our own minds. Those little thoughts like “I’m so stupid,” “I shouldn’t have said that,” or “Why can’t I just be normal?”. They might sound...
Be Kind and Gentle with Yourself In step three, we looked at how to stop scaring yourself by noticing the catastrophic thoughts that tell you everything’s about to fall apart. Now let's move to step four. When you’ve spent years scaring yourself with worry or...
Stop Scaring Yourself If you often find yourself spiralling into “what if” thoughts, eg what if something goes wrong?, what if I can’t cope?, what if I fail?, it’s more common than you might think. Catastrophising is one of the most common thinking traps I see in my...
Forgive Yourself Forgiving yourself isn’t about excusing what you did, it’s about freeing yourself from the emotional weight of the past.When you hold onto self-blame, it’s like drinking poison every day and hoping it will somehow heal you. That tight, punishing...
Stop All Criticism Many of us have fallen into the habit of judging and criticising ourselves harshly. Often, this comes from having a core belief that there is something wrong with you. A big part of learning to love yourself is recognising that there is nothing...
Why Does Self-Love Feel So Difficult? Firstly, "self-love” feels uncomfortable and even a bit scary. As children, we were taught to put others first, criticise ourselves into action, or to measure our worth by productivity and achievement. That old pattern:...