Have you ever found yourself thinking why am I successful but still unhappy? It might sound somethink like... ✅ I should be happy—I have everything I've always wanted.✅ I've worked so hard for this, why do I still feel anxious and unfulfilled?✅ Something must be wrong...
Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I so emotional?” Many of us have been taught to see emotions as inconvenient or something to suppress. But what if instead of trying to fix, avoid, or bury our feelings, we allowed them to guide us? Your mental health will begin...
Were you encouraged to embrace your emotions growing up? Or did you grow up hearing messages like “Stop crying,” “Get over it,” or “Don’t be so sensitive”? These phrases, though often well-intentioned, can condition us to believe that emotions are something to be...
If you're anything like me, you were not taught the true role of emotions. You've probably heard the same words as me all your life: "stop crying", "don't be weak", "get over it" and "you're too sensitive"! The Stiff Upper Lip This old fashioned stiff upper lip...
"Emotions are a critical source of information for learning" Joseph E. LeDoux Emotions serve as vital signals, helping us recognise what is dangerous, what is unfair, or what we need. Think of emotions like the warning lights on your car's dashboard They alert...
"Confidence develops when you have a deep sense that you can handle the emotional outcome of whatever you pursue." Dr Joan Rosenberg I want to share something that has the potential to truly transform your life: the key to building and maintaining confidence is...
"The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness." Abraham Maslow It's not surprising we get so overwhelmed when life feels so busy and fast-paced. Too many difficult feelings and emotions together with the responsibilities and burdens...
“I will focus on things that are within my control” In the busyness of modern life, we often find ourselves caught in a whirlwind of tasks and responsibilities, which contributes to increased anxiety and/or low mood. If you're currently feeling overwhelmed or if you...
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” Tony Gaskins When I first read this quote by Tony Gaskins, it totally floored me. I’d just never thought about it like that before. As a counsellor, it now makes...
Much of the work I do with clients is helping them to get reacquainted with their feelings. Often they've become disconnected from their core emotions, due to early childhood trauma, bullying and/or difficult relationships. Sometimes it's because they were never...
This week we are exploring the locus of control. Sometimes called the locus of evaluation. What on earth is that I hear you ask! So here it is. Our locus of control is determined by how we make decisions. Do you make decisions about what to do...
We're continuing our exploration of how our self-concept forms and how to find the real me underneath. This time we're delving into our introjected values. The way in which we absorb aspects of our parents/carers' and/or society’s attitudes and...
Our self-concept means how we think about ourselves. Who we are, the beliefs we have about ourselves and the way we personally see the world. Did you that there's a link between the self-concept, anxiety and low mood. Last week we explored the masks that we all wear....
The various masks we learn to take on throughout our lives often become part of our personality. So much so that as we get older we sometimes forget who the real person is underneath! Our concept of self becomes lost and this means that we not only lose touch with who...
The very heavy backpack. It started very young……don’t cry, don’t whinge, don’t snivel, don’t sulk, don’t be silly………………whatever you do, don’t feel! All perfectly normal signs and signals my younger self could not express. My feelings weren't allowed...